How to decorate your mantel.

Mantels. The struggle is REAL. Its confusing right? A little off balanced here, a little a symmetrical there. For years I struggled with the art of changing up my mantel for seasons, holidays, etc and being succesful. When I sat back to relax and enjoy it, it looked like Santa puked clutter everywhere! We can not have that for a calming area of our houses! No way! No how!

Over the last few months I made it a goal to master the art of a clean and beautiful looking mantel. I want to share some tips, tricks, and hacks to help you in creating the perfect seasonal piece to catch any ones eye.

Ready to be DIY Interior Decorator? Here we go!

First always…and I mean always… begin with your centerpiece or anchor. (This is the piece you are putting in the center.) An anchor is something which is hanging such as a mirror etc. If you are in a smaller space a mirror as an anchor is a fabulous way to really make your space look bigger by reflection of light. A good rule of thumb is it’s the biggest item you are placing on the mantel so you want it to be the real eye catcher!


Our next step is moving onto what is called the “fillers”. Fillers are little knick knack fun items to fill the empty space around your centerpiece.


Once you have the fillers in place you have decided to use,  stand back and look to make sure you have nice combining textures and heights in the “filler” section. A wonderful way to add a little height if you have an item that is just too plain solo, you can stack some accent books and put the item on top of the books. Greenery is also a wonderful accent to brighten up or add a pop of color if it seems to be to neutral for you!


The final step in creating the perfect space for your mantel is the “weight”. The weight is the girth and height at the end of each side of the mantle! THIS DOES NOT HAVE TO MATCH~ for example, currently on mine I have a Big Lantern paired with a smaller one on the left side and on the right side I have a Silver Tall Vase of Tulips! It truly is all about your style and mixing it up!

Spring is  here! Hopefully this helps with a little confidence in creating a beautiful mantle Simply!

Happy Decorating Friends.

You Can Do Hard Things

This was it.  One of those parenting moments you read about in waiting room magazines. If I said the wrong thing, there could be scarring for life.  Okay, so not really scarring, but this was most definitely an important moment.

Let me back up…

The night before, I realized my kindergartner had brought home a magnet from school that did not belong to him.  It belonged to his teacher. This was new territory for me, but we did the tough talk about taking things that don’t belong to you and made a plan to return the magnet to his teacher the next morning. He was scared to tell his teacher (who is a very kind person by the way). He cried but was able to calm down before bedtime.

The next morning, my kiddo nervously mentioned the plan we’d made together a few times but made it to school with only a few tears.

But then…

As we walked the path to his kindergarten class, I could feel the tension building inside him, and in myself. Suddenly, the damn burst and he broke into sobs, begging me to take him home.  He pulled away, turning toward the direction of the car. “I’m scared” he wailed, over-sized tears rolling down his reddened cheeks. The look of fear in his eyes tore at my heart.

That was it.  That was the big moment when the world stopped turning for a breath and I knew I had to reach down deep for an answer.  An answer that would support him in becoming a secure, resilient person who could face fears without falling apart.  A better person, perhaps, that I have been in much of my life. I took a deep breath.

This is what I said…

“I know you’re scared.  It’s okay to be scared.  And I know that this is hard.  But here’s the thing…you can do hard things.  And I will be there with you the whole time.  Together we can do hard things.”

Did it stop his tears and make it all better?  No.  But I believe it helped him calm himself a little, and I like to think it gave him another piece of solid foundation toward a lifetime of doing things even when they are scary, and knowing that he has the resiliency to get through them.

Since that day, I have thought back on those words and realized…

That advice applies to my life.

And to yours.

Perhaps it’s when we have to dig deep for someone we love more than ourselves that an authentic truth is more easily revealed.  Or maybe it’s revealed in a way that feels more REAL, more personal.  Since then I’ve been reminding myself more often of that authentic truth. That it’s okay to be afraid.  That I can do hard things, and that my God, family, and tribe of friends are always with me.

So to all you amazing women: That thing that you’re afraid of?  I know you’re scared.  It’s okay to be scared.  And I know that this is hard.  But here’s the thing…you can do hard things. Together, we women can do hard things.

– Kristen Rodgers

Bye Frizz – For like ever.


Ladies….I love things that simplify my life. As a mom it’s so easy to just let everything go because you’re so busy taking care of everyone else righttttt? Okay so some women are blessed with this naturally gorgeous hair that you just hop out of the shower and go….Well this is so not me. No way. No how. I look more like an angry hamster that got stuck underneath a very strong drying machine. Through the years I have literally tried EVERYTHING…Keratin treatments, brazilian blow outs, professional straighteners, and nothing has worked. I found this product Amazonliss by Nutree which is the real deal. Best part I completed the three-step process in 45 minutes! I know sometimes these get tricky when your DIY and a tad scary if you are confused on a step. I have created a step by step process (with pictures on how you can have silky soft NOT FRIZZY hair that last for months in less than an hour!) Can I get an AMEN to my frizzy haired ladies out there!

When you open the box its broken down into three simple bottles….Labeled by the steps 1.2.3.

The directions are very to the point and have little character pictures (that I tried to mimic real life style.)

Step one – Get in the shower and get your hair wet! Shampoo once with step one (You will get no suds the first go around, leave in for the full five minutes.) When you rinse the first time repeat again and this time you will have suds exploding (Be safe not to get in your eye…it will burn.) Same as the first wash leave in for 5 minutes then rinse. With the second rinse you will literally be squeaky clean. DO NOT CONDITION. Get out of the shower dry off throw a towel on your hair.

Step two has two parts….First blow dry your hair to about 85%, when your almost all dry put on gloves and make sure you are in a well ventilated area. (The product smells very strong once the heat hits it!) Now your ready to put on your glove’s!! Make sure you wear them. Now section your hair into 6 different sections and apply step 2 bottle to each section combing it carefully through with a fine tooth comb. When finished applying product blow dry until completely dry.

Once completely dry, you want to take a flat-iron and go over every inch of your hair until perfectly stick straight.


Now you’re looking in the mirror like YASSSSS…..Then you read step three….Time to get wet again! Step 3 is a deep conditioner and once you rinse your hair feels like a million dollars, the cuticles feel sealed, the frizz is gone it phenomenal. After my last shower sesh I blew dry with NO STRAIGHTENING just to see what would happen….are you ready for it?



Phenomenal…… I can get out of the shower and run! This is amazing…

Bye Forever Frizz


Can I get a HELLO?

You have a dream. You write it down. You have a goal. You make a plan. You put it to action and before you know it’s a reality. 

I realized this year that it takes team work to make the dream work. My entire life I have tried to carry mountains on my shoulders alone….I’ve gotten far but not to the top. I met these two amazing women through my son’s school and knew I had to have them involved some way some how with my ultimate goal of helping other women. (These ladies are the show stopping special ones that make you laugh, are real and raw.) You know, the mom friends you painfully “mom date” to find? Personally…This attracts me to people…. REALNESS. Moms, Entrepreneurs, corporate Women, Stay at home wives, workaholics, influencers….Anyone. I wanted to REACH YOU! to help YOU! Everyone has a goal, a common purpose….

Bottom line…That purpose is to be the best possible YOU that you can be….To be better than you were yesterday. To learn from your mistakes, make smarter action moves, and to love harder! Am I right???? Ok ok! So last week I met with these phenomenal women at the park. We connected, we brain stormed, we PLANNED….and you know what happened REALITY…..


Meet my two guest writers! We will be brain storming, planning, sharing projects, having our 5 kids go crazy at parks while we attempt to make something special for YOU! Big things for 2018… I won’t reveal it all at once, because what fun is that….I will however introduce these amazing women….

Meet Kristen…..


“Hi, I’m Kristen, a blessed and grace-filled mom trying to rekindle my creative spark and also put positivity and encouragement into this world.  I believe women empowering and supporting each other in a REAL way is how we make positive changes for us all. I also love laughing with friends, sci-fi movies and shows (hello Anaconda and X-Files), all things nature, reading, gardening, and being a wife and mom. I am so thankful for my tribe of friends and hope to connect to even more of you out there! I love being a bit sassy as I explore this wonderful, crazy roller-coaster life, so if you want to laugh while we explore our creative and entrepreneurial side, come on along with me.”

Let me also add she loves crocaconda (sci fi reference), bacon, and wine… Can I get a HELLO!

Ok Lets meet Heather (She’s amazing) works full time and is PTA president…. (I don’t even go to PTA so no clue how this mama balances, but she will sure tell you.)

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“Hi, I’m Heather, a grateful, (and juggling) mom on a mission to discover my authentic self, to choose joy every day and to find the true meaning of balance. I am filled with a passion for spreading kindness, choosing joy and finding new adventures in this wild life we live. Women supporting and uplifting each other while pushing ourselves to explore our limits and new experiences is a new but deeply meaningful focus for me. I suppose you could say I’m mostly sweet with a bit of spice! I cherish laughter and enjoy lighthearted sarcasm but my heart beats with sentiment and emotion. I love listening to music and find lyrics to be one of my most therapeutic experiences in life. I enjoy all things centered around relationship building – coffee, wine and food. What else could you need? Sentimental movies, sweet memories with my children and family and precious time with my beloved tribe of friends are the things that feed my soul. I’m excited you’re here and I look forward to walking this path of discovery, joy and laughter with you!”

Let me also add that she is PTA president, loves wine, baking and sappy chick flicks.


Get ready for some mind blowing, hilarious, real, diy, mommin ain’t easy ish coming up in here! 2018 will be amazing….





I became victim to the box.

I very rarely talk about my personal life. I try to keep every thing professional as apple pie. However maybe I can help a mama or two become not so helpless and feel not so alone with this. Maybe I’ll be shunned…Who knows but I wanted to be real and I promised you when I started this blog to always be vulnerable. So here my shaking little hands go….

My son is a very spirited little man. Vivacious, amazing, typical little boy….. What you do not see is this little boy has been through far more than the average 7-year-old. His biological father was very sick from PTSD and caused some severe trauma with telling him things that were inappropriate…We wont go into too much detail. Basically my child was afraid of everything by the age of 4. He thought planes were spraying aerosol trying to kill him, if an apple didn’t have an organic sticker on it he would throw it at me in the store and scream I was killing him by feeding him fruit that wasnt organic…. It was a night mare. I threw myself into straight survivor mom mode and we went to intensive PCIT (Parent Child Therapy), Counseling, Play Therapy, Parenting classes…. (I had no idea what was causing this until my son could speak clearly and my husband and I started to put the pieces together of what was happening on his visitation time.) Lets fast forward. After a horrible custody battle where my character, insides, and confidence were basically Destroyed I became strong….Like hammer head, white shark, turtle shell strong….. I decided I would no longer give a FUCK what anyone said or thought about me.

The only thing that mattered at this point was MY CHILD. HIS WELL BEING. HIS PROTECTION. AND HIS HAPPILY EVER AFTER.

He deserves this…just as any other child. When he was 5 we gained full custody of my son with protection for his well-being.

We have these illusions of what our lives will look like when were younger and sometimes we hit speedbumps…What I have learned is THATS OK!!!!! My outcome came out far better than anything I could have ever imagined. I married what I think is my soul mate…(like really the man of my dreams.) an amazing father to my children and all my son knows as daddy. This makes my heart skip a beat.

When my son was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of six we decided to not medicate. My favorite thing about my child is his drive for life, his little spirit, his old soul… It drives me crazy, makes me laugh, but most of all it’s WHO HE IS. He is ALL BOY….. Now here’s the problem….As his mom I do not believe he has ADHD. I think he has some serious testosterone and is a typical boy. For some reason in today’s society this is not allowed any more.

We are such a sensitive arrogant entitled generation that boys are supposed to act like girls.

We are WIRED differently. (boys and girls.) Boys will not sit at a desk for 8 hours and read books. They want to lift rocks and find bugs, climb trees, do math by counting the stones they find at the beach, not by sitting counting numbers on a paper. So whats easy? TO MEDICATE… mmm.mmm.mmm.

Maybe this is easy? Is easy right? I personally do not think so. I started to question myself after talks with family, teachers, etc.

Am I wrong?

Should I just medicate and make it easier?

HELL NO. My gut was screaming…. So I did a ton of research, found alternative motives and realized three things.

  1. BOYS ARE BOYS. They are not girls…. LET THEM BE BOYS. They are hyper, they are silly, they want to be boys…DONT FALL VICTIM TO THE BOX of what they are “supposed” to be..What you thought you would have in a child…LET THEM BE just that…THEM. It’s really beautiful when you step back and can guide them instead of force them in the correct direction.
  2. Vitamins and supplements can cure pretty much anything. Often times its as simple as a vitamin their short in.
  3. Output and Excersize. Boys are meant to move…WE all our. Get out…run, hike, play. Boys are not designed to sit in a corner and fold their hands…(this goes back to cave man times.)

Most of all follow your gut. Follow your heart. You are a mother. That means your child was designed specifically to need you. Do not let them down, do what’s right and what you know they need. That’s why you get the title Mother.

Some children truly do need medication, don’t get me wrong. If they don’t though and you can find an alternative…DO THAT.

Parenting is Messy.

Accept it. Love it. Know this time goes SO FAST.

Most of all Enjoy the Little things…They really are the BIG things in the end.

Lets end this with Mother Theresa.

“If you want to change the world, go home and LOVE your family.”


Stuck Inside Creativity

This week I had two sick little’s home for a week and had to get real creative with keeping them busy as the energy level was still there and we were stuck inside. I love projects that not only are fun but also have some sort of learning or character building behind them!

Little Hands Change the World Project

What you need:

  • Craft Tray – (I try to make clean up as easy as possible.) Washable Craft Trays
  • Paint
  • Construction Paper
  • Scissors
  • Glue

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I traced their hands on the paper and had them each cut out their hands on construction paper. We then placed the little hands in the craft tray and went crazy with abstract paint style on the hands. 


Second we took a bowl and traced the circle on the second piece of paper. The kids cut this out as well and repeated the steps above. 

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We then let it dry for about an hour and glued the hands to the world and came up with 3 different ways we were going to make a difference to help the world and our community. 

Water Color Crayons

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Switch it up

Sometimes all you need for some kid motivation is a little change up of the normal routine. I found these amazing watercolor crayons that seriously glide and are super fun to color with in general….Ready for the best part you dip the crayon in water and grab a paint brush and it turns into mess free coloring and painting. I let them use these instead of a pencil for homework and I have never seen my son more focused on his school work! Getting creative does not have to be hard sometimes the simplest things the kids enjoy the most!

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Home made Puffy Paint

What you will need: 

  • Shaving Cream
  • Food Coloring
  • Elmers Glue

Lets Make it!

    1. Put down your craft tray to protect your table. Wearing an apron is also a good idea.
    2. Mix equal parts of shaving cream and Elmer’s glue.
    3. Add food coloring ( a few drops at a time til desired color.)
    4. Apply the glue to a heavy paper. (You can also sponge it on if easier.)
    5. Let the Paint Dry.
    • Window Clings: Add puffy paint to wax paper in small shapes and designs. Let the paint dry overnight and then you can peel off the puffy paint and it will stay in its shape. You can place them on the window and they make super fun window decorations. These are great to do for holidays!
    • Puffy Paint Shirts: Add puffy paint to t-shirts or sweatshirts in fun and cute designs. Let the paint dry overnight on the clothing, then it will be time to wear it in style. Be sure to hand wash only.
    • Puffy Paint Greeting Cards: Add a little puffy paint to a folded greeting card to add a cool 3D look. Kids will love to make different shapes and creations with puffy paint and then gift their cards to friends and loved ones.

Happy Crafting Mama Bears.

California Dreaming

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San Francisco: With a thriving city like this you can view the amazing arts scene, world class food, a culturally diverse population, and countless tourist destinations, including Alcatraz, the Golden Gate Bridge, the Palace of Fine Arts, the Presidio, and numerous museums. The average cost of a mortgage is $3,500 (this being for a low end style home.) The cost of living here is 26% higher than the rest of the US, which is why so many people commute to work in the city. A beautiful vacation destination though if your into beautiful beaches, aquariums, and art.


Los Angeles: This city is fast paced and makes you feel alive! LA is all about the glitz and glam with beautiful destinations and kid friendly activities such as Universal Studios, Pirate Dinners, Hollywood Walk of Fame, the Wax Museum and so much more. The average cost of a mortgage in the LA area is actually less than you would think ranging from $2000-$3000. Moving here though expect a lot of time in your car, as traffic is a challenge to go anywhere!  


Fresno: A hidden little gem with a ton of charm. Fresno has amazing underground gardens, the Chaffee Zoo, Museums, Art Galleries, Wineries, and amusement parks. Very kid friendly with beautiful trails and outdoor activities to explore. The average cost of living is between $1200-$3000 with a central location, family friendly environment and a ton to explore. Create your fresh start.

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Santa Barbara: Southern California Beauty with Northern California Reality People. The snootiness is just not in the city! Everyone seems very down to earth and friendly. Santa Barbara has beautiful beaches, is a college town, and has attractions such as the Stearns Wharf, State Street, and a ton of Eco Out door activities. The average cost of mortgage is $254,000.

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Napa: Beautiful rolling hills of Wine Country. Amazing culture, fun shopping experiences, wineries on every block with charm and quaintness of a small town feel. The average mortgage is between $2500-$3000 in the city but the outskirts you can find as low as $2000. This city is quiet and peaceful with a relaxing spa like atmosphere.

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Lake Tahoe: If your athletic or adventurous, there is no place in the world like Tahoe. From parasailing, beautiful beaches, mountain activities, snow boarding, skiing, sledding, fun restaurants, and any water activity you can think of this is your spot. Some of the most beautiful trails in the world with Cool Summers and Snowy Winters. Great vacation spot! The average cabin cost is between $2500 – $5000.

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San Diego: Surfing the beautiful oceans, sunshine nearly every day,  Pacific Beach, San Diego Zoo, Whale Watching, Surf Lessons, SeaWorld and a hot downtown night life makes this a desirable vacation spot or living spot for the energized! Cost of living averages $2000.


Anaheim: Hello, Goodbye!!! My favorite vacation spot and also known as the Happiest Place on Earth. This is the home of Disney Land and California Adventure! Amazing Spot to Spend 3-5 days and escape reality to become a kid again. Mortgage here is surprisingly low but get ready for tourist everywhere all the time…Average Mortgage is between $1200- $2000.

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The Sierras: Relaxing and Peaceful. Very quiet area for the most part and covers several “small mountain cities” Amazing trails and out door activities, close rivers and lakes, rafting, snow boarding, and skiing are all regular activities. The average cost of mortgage is $1800-$3000.


Santa Cruz: comparable to “Jersey Shore” with a beautiful boardwalk, totally kid friendly, very laid back city, surfing, beaches, warm but not too hot. Red wood forest steam train adventures, Sailing and Amusement park and game atmosphere down at the board walk. You can also escape to the cute little town for beach restaurants and sand between your toes. Average cost of living is between $2000-$4000.

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Monterey: Gorgeous Bay off of the ocean where you can go down to the beach and find starfish, amazing shells, hear the giant waves crash in. Kayaking in the bay is a favorite of mine, seals and otters come up all around you while out on the ocean. Monterey also offers some of the best clam chowder, and of course the famous aquarium. Average cost of living in this quaint beach town is from $3500-$5000.

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Palm Springs: Palm Springs pretty much has it all. Vegas with out the casinos everywhere. Botanical Gardens, Cactus to clouds trail, Museums and Art, Tram Way, Joshua Nation Park, hot air balloon rides! Absolutely gorgeous city to soak in some rays. Average Mortgage is between $2000-$3500.

Now let’s get adventuring. Remember life is about taking chances, enjoying experiences, and taking in the little moments.